Trooper York: Darcy has been working out.

Saturday, March 23, 2013

Darcy has been working out.

Darcy has been too busy to post comments here because of her exercise program where she is slimming down in all the right places.

And not in the wrong places if you get my drift.

But don't stare. It gets the ball boys all nervous. Just sayn'

36 comments:

chickelit said...: Darcy is a good woman and deserves no mockery of any sort.; March 24, 2013 at 1:34 AM
Chip S. said...: She's kind, honest, insightful, and hot.

No wonder she doesn't hang out here anymore.; March 24, 2013 at 12:05 PM
TTBurnett said...: Yes, Darcy is a real gem and one of the best people I've run into on the internet. God bless her, and I hope she isn't so far away she can't drop by and wave "hello."; March 24, 2013 at 8:57 PM
rcommal said...: This comment has been removed by the author.; March 24, 2013 at 11:53 PM
rcommal said...: Huh. But it was a-OK when Darcy ...

oh, whatever.; March 24, 2013 at 11:54 PM
rcommal said...: It's sorta like the bit maelstrom thing. It was a-Ok "when" in that case, too. Huh.

To repeat: oh, whatever.; March 24, 2013 at 11:59 PM
rcommal said...: Make no mistake:

I learned how to so much more appreciate the virtues of tennis-volleying and movie-watching, and so to this day is my life richer.

Still.

W.T.F.?; March 25, 2013 at 12:04 AM
rcommal said...: Hey, don't worry. Really, don't.

I know why the standard was different; why the standards were different. I absolutely do: I learned.

***

Also, no worries: I know that there never was any worry about that.; March 25, 2013 at 12:33 AM
rcommal said...: Doesn't matter anyway.; March 25, 2013 at 12:53 AM
Trooper York said...: Darcy knows that it is all in fun.

Plus I know she is a big fan of Big Ange.

As are we all.; March 25, 2013 at 2:56 PM
Trooper York said...: I will always take down a post that really offends somebody.

But I only had to do it twice.

Most people get that it is internet bullshit and it is here today and gone tomorrow.; March 25, 2013 at 2:57 PM
Darcy said...: First: LOL!

And awwww...thank you for thinking of me - and you guys are the BEST! And gals. Including you, rcommal. You've got a bug up your butt about somethin' with regard to me, but I loves ya. I really do.

I miss reading the stuff here. I haven't been online much at all, and it seems when I do I just get all whiny about some stupid thing not going right for me on Twitter. And then I say to myself "Geez, you're pathetic! Snap out of it!", which sometimes works.

But eventually I read something that really touches me. You all do you, know. It's like tonic.

Thank you.; March 25, 2013 at 6:48 PM
rcommal said...: I do have a bug up my butt about you, Darcy, and for very good reason.

Also, in response to "but I loves ya. I really do.":

"Teh Bee Ess: Ya does not loves me, and never has ya." (Did I get that slang right? Probably not.)

What weird-ass pretending is that?

I just put a nice spin on it, ftr.; March 25, 2013 at 11:53 PM
TTBurnett said...: May I quote Darcy from Twitter about six days ago?

"God first. Relationships matter. Acts of kindness. Caring for others. Everything belongs to God."

I don't know about you, but I have observed Darcy in a number of online contexts, some of which I doubt hardly any of you could have seen, and I have never found her to violate any of the above. You can start tearing into Darcy for

oh, whatever

but for my part, I have never found Darcy to be any other than the kindest person I have known on the internet.

I don't have much in common with her, in fact, other than our shared Althouse and a few other online experiences. But as far as that goes, plain decency remains a reproach to brittle wit and rotten behavior pretty much any time and any place.; March 26, 2013 at 12:03 AM
rcommal said...: OK, TT. I respect and accept your judgment and choice.; March 26, 2013 at 12:22 AM
Darcy said...: You're way too kind, Tim. But thank you.

And rcommal, yes I did mean that. I enjoy reading your quirky, irascible style. As I've said before, they're often way over my head if not indecipherable to me, but I read them nonetheless.

I do know we've butted heads a few times, but I'd thought we'd either made amends or at least tried. I'm going to assume I said something that was hurtful and didn't apologize for it, though. If that is the case, I am very sorry. I own my words, but there are so, so many over 50 years that I've said that I wish I could take back.; March 26, 2013 at 5:54 AM
Darcy said...: Oop. "They're" = rcommals comments

And I hope "irascible" doesn't offend. I chose it because to me it conjures up a person quick to get cranky, but in a kind of lovable way.; March 26, 2013 at 5:58 AM
chickelit said...: Darcy said "butted"; March 26, 2013 at 11:43 AM
windbag said...: It's a curiosity to me how so many commenters here know each other elsewhere. I get lost in the references and inside comments. (That's not a complaint, just an observation.) I don't know anyone on-line in real life. My sense is that many here value relationships much more than I do. Grim? Perhaps.; March 26, 2013 at 12:09 PM
Darcy said...: Bruce that was adorbs. :)

And windbag: I don't think that's grim. Just different.; March 26, 2013 at 1:02 PM
MamaM said...: In my formative years, hidden anger was the norm; sarcasm was the verbal means of expression and passive-aggressive behavior was the non-verbal. Sighs, shrugs and a whatever-whatevs-lalalala attitude of superiority and invincibility were the "can't touch me" covers of defense and inviolability we put up in response when feelings of hurt and anger were provoked.

I'm practiced in both behaviors. They protected and served me well through the time when vulnerability wasn't safe and open expression of honest thoughts and feelings wasn't an option. Unfortunately, they weren't so helpful when the opportunity arrived for me to engage in healthy communication with my husband and children. Sniping, fencing and deflection as a means of emotional expression result in what MrM refers to as "a half job"; they provide a coded opportunity for covert expression and the offloading of painful and unpleasant feelings but do not invite open, honest communication or lead to conflict resolution.

If honest communication and relationship is the goal, sniping and sighing won't help it be realized.

If offloading emotion, engaging in drama, provoking imagination, inviting laughter, enjoying moments of connection, considering other perspectives and responding to the numerous distorted reflections founding this House of Mirrors is what turns the crank, then this appears to me to be the place to do so.; March 26, 2013 at 7:55 PM
chickelit said...: Spiegelhaus eins
Althaus null; March 26, 2013 at 8:49 PM
MamaM said...: I knew that picture wasn't Darcy because of the hair color!

When I look at that figure, I see a booty chest, something that looks like ass and gives the appearance she underwent a fanny transplant.; March 26, 2013 at 9:42 PM
TTBurnett said...: This comment has been removed by the author.; March 27, 2013 at 12:35 PM
TTBurnett said...: Before we get any further down the trail this thread has tried to veer onto several times, I'd like to quote Pope Francis from a little homily he delivered just today:
"Never speak poorly of others."
Unless someone has done me a genuine wrong, I try to adhere to that.
And even if they have wronged me, I should forgive them.

I'm working on that. But, despite the difficulty of taking it, the Pope's advice still stands.; March 27, 2013 at 12:37 PM
MamaM said...: Thanks for the link TT. Beyond "should", what I hear is the invitation "let us", which allows for an answer of "yes, help me" or a "no, I'm not ready, help me" depending on where we are in the process, with the ultimate goal being: an open heart.; March 27, 2013 at 4:44 PM
rcommal said...: I'm going to assume I said something that was hurtful and didn't apologize for it, though.

No. It's that you didn't even bother to address or acknowledge a sincere apology (privately and sincerely offered: at the time, that was supposed to mean something; just like at this time, it is supposed to. But, would it?). You treated it as an extension of a flounce (yes, even Darcy has done it, once or twice) that involved "housekeeping" of, if not dirt, then at least so-adjudged superfluous opinion considered to be dust, to be cast away with great energy.

Meanwhile, it's all kindness & etc. to elsewhere and whatever, and from whatever and elsewhere. There's this weird ass notion out there that only the bitchy women out there ever do things that aren't exactly, well, you know, admirable. And that women who do admirable things are never bitchy. Never.; March 27, 2013 at 11:25 PM
rcommal said...: Etc.; March 27, 2013 at 11:36 PM
rcommal said...: For the record, I do notice that folks tend to want to protect and defend in one way, but not another. Expectations and allowances are different, and the why is not to be considered.

Huh. How 'bout that.; March 27, 2013 at 11:52 PM
rcommal said...: As for the various psychoanalysis offered here:

If you've never actually talked with me, you can blow it out your ass.

And if you have (one never knows, after all--right?), then take it up with me. It's called a phone number. I've been pretty generous with that, after all, for many years.; March 28, 2013 at 12:01 AM
rcommal said...: As to you, Troop:

There was a time when you knew full well that I know how to take stuff seriously not and also seriously for sure.

Full stop.

***

You changed more than I did. Yes, you did.; March 28, 2013 at 1:50 AM
Darcy said...: rcommal: Worse, I don't remember doing what you say I did. But I believe you, and I'm very sorry I treated you like that.

I'm pretty free with my number too. I don't think you meant that comment for me, but here it is: 248-686-4262

There isn't a person here at TY who isn't welcome to call.; March 28, 2013 at 5:49 AM
Darcy said...: And rcommal, your comment about whether "bitchy" woman are ever perceived as doing anything admirable, well, I see that point. I am not making a statement here about who is bitchy and who is not, because I know well how bitchy I can be myself. (So if I'm aware of some of that tendency, I'm probably far worse than I am aware of.) But I veered of point here.

What I want to say is that I had just recently said to someone that I wish I could be more blunt. Maybe not more confrontational, but more direct, which is often considered bitchy. I think the reason I'm not is complicated. I think I want to say that I'm too sensitive myself and want to avoid offending. But guess what? I'm suspecting that is just crap.

Yes, I'm sensitive (too sensitive!), but why? I am pursuing the idea that it is self-absorption. And so is/was my shyness for much of my life. And this hyper-sensitivity leads to cowardliness and I HATE that about me. It's a little bit of hell (especially lately).

I admire forthright, blunt, yes, even bitchy/crabby people sometimes. Of course, when it's directed at me it's not likely I feel that way in the moment. ;); March 28, 2013 at 6:10 AM
MamaM said...: I wish I could be more blunt.

When you are honest and direct, Darcy, I experience the real you shining through in a way I can clearly see, receive and appreciate.

"To be clear, confident and centered" has become the goal my family and I are currently working toward. It turned up a year ago in this quote: "The aim of healing is to help a person become more clear, centered, and confident about who they are in the present and who they choose to be"

The story I told above about my experiences with anger within my family while I was growing up is a true story. It's my belief a true story is the best we have to offer one another, along with an open heart. The rest is clutter, also part of how we relate in a broken yet beautiful world.; March 28, 2013 at 12:07 PM
Darcy said...: I agree with that MamaM. And thank you. I sometimes refer to telling my true story as "telling on myself" because if it is my true story it is hardly ever easy for me to tell.; March 28, 2013 at 12:18 PM
MamaM said...: It's not easy for me either.

I'm currently reading a book recommendation from a seminar on trauma and brain integration, called "Daring Greatly" by Brene Brown. While I'm aware there may be some who consider this type of writing a form of pop psychology, or worse yet, paint it with a broad brush and dismiss what is presented as "psychoanalysis", I like to approach books I'm not sure about with open eye, looking to see what stands out, resonates, or applies to my life situation. I found this last night:

Connection: Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment.

Belonging: Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.

These definitions are crucial to understanding how we become disconnected in our lives and how to change. Living a connected life ultimately is about setting boundaries, spending less time and energy hustling and winning over people who don't matter, and seeing the value of working on cultivating connection with family and close friends.

Is such a connection and belonging possible online? To some degree, I believe it is if expectations can be managed and discerning trust employed.; March 29, 2013 at 3:33 PM

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Darcy has been working out.

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